You know the type…Driven. Successful. Workaholic. Overachiever. Type A. Perfectionist.
I know this type all too well—I could’ve been the poster child. I proudly wore my “perfectionist” button like a badge of honor.
But, inside, I secretly suffered (often times unconsciously). And, when I couldn’t hold it together any longer my body suffered…and my life fell apart.
I was exhausted, anxious, and never satisfied. I had insomnia, terrible fatigue, and heart palpitations.
But, I never put the pieces together. I thought things would improve as I worked harder. But, the more I strived for perfection, the more my body suffered.
I believed that being driven, successful and a perfectionist were things to be revered and respected. And, that these pursuits were to be rewarded with achievement and accolades.
But, these pursuits came at a high price. The cost? Unhappiness, pain, suffering, and the constant feeling of “I’m not good enough.”
Many people come to me suffering…in their body and mind. And, they’ve visited many doctors and healers and have seen little results.
We discover that part of the reason they feel the way they do—exhausted, anxious, and unhealthy—is because their body feels out of alignment with their inner spirit. The life they’re living isn’t in harmony with the life they want to live.
This creates a tremendous amount of stress and a feeling of uneasiness, disjointedness, and an inner chaos that can not be calmed.
So, you constantly push yourself—and feel tremendous disappointment when you never “get there.”
The result? Feelings of shame, failure and guilt.
And, your body? Tired. Exhausted. Anxious. Depressed. Overweight. Sick.
And, the cycle starts over http://www.mindanews.com/buy-levaquin/ again…”I feel so bad in my body so if I exercise perfect and eat perfect I’ll feel better.”
This never works. It’s a recipe for failure every time (which is a perfectionists nightmare!!).
For me, the cycle started to break when I began to realize the root of my perfectionism.
Underneath it all, I believed that if I wasn’t perfect—or “good enough”—I wasn’t valuable, respectable, or worthy of love (especially from myself).
Breaking the “perfectionism cycle” is an arduous task.
For me, it took a mixture of working on radical self-love and learning how to be vulnerable and express my own (imperfect!) authenticity.
Through this process, one of the most important things I did was invite relationships into my life where I was freely and wholeheartedly accepted for “just being me.” I had to pull away from those people who were toxic for my personal growth.
I’m proud of who I am…warts, wrinkles, flaws and imperfections.
My life is much more satisfying. I have deeper relationships with myself and others.
And, that inner chaos and constant anxiety? Gone.
The insomnia and fatigue? Gone.
And, I feel contentment and at peace…all the time. (Even when life throws me curveballs.)
So what can you do?
Start with this: learn to fully and completely love and accept yourself for who you are (imperfections and all).
Use affirmations, practice gratitude, find people in your life who fully love and accept you.
Love the journey you are on.
It’s scary to break the cycle but it’s worth it.
I’d love to hear from you.
How has perfectionism stolen your health?
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